Monday, October 15, 2012

And so it goes . . .

I know it's only October, but I felt like it was the perfect time to reflect on what is important in life.  I know I'll have more to say about being thankful later, but I really needed to get this off my chest.   First and foremost, what makes me happiest is that when I wake each day, my family is with me.  Their love is strong and steadfast.  They are who get me through each day to the next.  Whether it's an encouraging word, a hug and a kiss, my boys are ALWAYS here for me.  Just last month, FAMILY had my heart again.  While in New York to commemorate the anniversary of the 9/11 attacks, I had the opportunity to spend some much needed family time.  This visit has imprinted my heart.  It meant the world to me that my family was with me to share a day that I'll not soon forget . . . reading the names of victims of the 9/11 attacks.  My cousin Jane Marie (Dennis' sister) made her first visit ever to Ground Zero, a visit she had dreaded for years.  I wasn't sure she was going to show up, but when I walked out with my reading partner, there she was with her sweet husband Brian.  It made what I was about to do even more amazing; it made the entire trip! 

Here we are all together the night before 9/11 sharing a glass of wine with my Aunt Renee. 
From left (front row) is Kelly, Aunt Renee, Courtney, and Bonniel.  Back row is Jane Marie and Me. 

Family is EVERYTHING . . . but having loving friends and people that you associate with on a daily basis is pretty important to me too.  So when someone betrays that friendship, it's a hard pill to swallow.  I've met some amazing people in the 3 years that I've been in business; new customers, new friends, vendors.  The list goes on.  In the economy we've been dealt, it's so nice when we can help each other out.  I could spend a day listing all of the people who have helped me along the way.  There are many.  It's not my intention to derail this post by outing someone; that's not my style.  Let me just say that I DETEST MEAN GIRLS.  So when a MEAN GIRL rears her ugly head, it makes my heart sad.  That happened this weekend, and I've watched as the claws have come out.  It is ugly and small and as my Mother always told me, "birds of a feather flock together".  So I'm just going to remember that I have a loving flock of family and friends who are ALWAYS here for me.  I don't need the negativity and bad juju in my life.  ONWARD AND UPWARD. 

So, today I'm proclaiming that I will not be bullied, I will back away from the drama, and I will be the best friend I can be to those who consider me their friend.  Life's too short people. 


  1. ohhhh, I'm sorry your beautifully planned weekend was so tarnished! It's very painful, I know - I've been there myself. And when the fangs come out, it is TRUE bullying. But, you have the right idea, onward and upward! LOVE...

    1. Thank you Janet. I treasure each and every friendship. It pains me to my core when one goes sideways. Your love and friendship mean so much to me. xoxo

  2. I relate to this so much.
    I just don't understand it. But am sometimes the victim of it. It hurts deeply, but it's always the right thing to turn away, look onward and move upward.
    Hugs to you!!

  3. And Beki, my friend from far away. Thank you. It's hard to juggle friendships sometimes. I just wish that women would stand shoulder to shoulder together instead of tearing each other down. Life is tough, but I'm glad and happy you're in mine. xoxo

  4. Truer words couldn't have been spoken. Seems like just when you think there's no more drama, it rears it's ugly head again. Just remember the Golden Rule: "Treat others as you would like to be treated."
    I have to remind my teenage daughter of this often. ;)

  5. @Rusty, thank you for writing. I'm still stumped by why women feel the need to rip each other apart. Isn't it hard enough already without having that pressure on our shoulders? I love the golden rule . . . thanks for the reminder ;)